False Self

In life, no matter it be work, school, friends, etc. we are always putting on an act. O.K. well maybe not all the time, but sometimes. Like the book says, we have a false self for the gratification and satisfaction for other people. I worked at retail store called Honolua Surf Company. Everyday, we had to put on an act for customers to make THEM happy. It didn’t matter if they were pricks or assholes to us, we had to be of service to them. I don’t understand why. This can also be seen through genders. For instance, if you are not nice to a customer and are a female you are considered a bitch. The customer will complain the manager, you get a warning, and the list goes on and on. We are a country so built on other’s doing things for us it’s unreal. Also, we can see that sometimes this is prevalent in the home. Mother’s come home from work, but instead of taking time for themselves, they have to take care of their family and cater to them. Instead of having some time and space to relax, their thoughts and feelings must be pushed aside in order to make their family happy. This is a gender role that is placed on by society. Dad works hard at work so he gets time to relax. The mother also works hard at work, but also must take care of the house and the family. Why is this so? American’s are so fixed on this ideal that its hard to wean them off of it. Kinda screwed up.